Coffee & Movie Dates

I've never been a coffee date or movies kinda woman. The few times that I've made an exception, it's either been exceptionally boring or a downright abysmal experience.

And, well... video calls are at our disposal. And, I like blueberry-flavored coffee. lol Where else am I gonna get blueberry-flavored coffee, except from within my own "gilded cave of wonders?" Plus, I require a video call before meeting anyway, for security and vetting purposes -- so that's the coffee date. Same energy, and I get coffee that I know I like.

Now, I'll leave my house for something more stimulating, something where I get to get gussied up and wear my sparkly things and make heads turn -- but, not for no got-damned burnt coffee. Nor to be felt up in the dark by some entitled, horny, low-effort, self-indulgent stranger. 🙃

If the video meet goes well and we decide make formal plans to meet in person, then flowers, a tasty meal, a well-crafted cocktail, and perhaps a stroll afterwards, is a decent follow-up, and might constitute a first date.

And, there are even ways to score bonus points with me BEFORE that first date -- but, that's a post for another day. We've barely scratched the surface, here. People already think that I'm spoiled, so I'm pacing my disclosures. lol

But, in addition to all of that, I have a 90-day waiting rule on physical intimacy. Because I'll not have my hormones and excitement be bio-hacked against my best interests -- no, thank you. 🫠 If I still like the person 90 days after our first date, then I'll consider it. But so far, since implementing that rule, it hasn't happened. 😌🥂 The filter works as it should.

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